I knew this day would come...
I just didn't know the deep down feelings that would surface.
God prepared me for this!
I often wondered how in the world I could turn my story into helping others....it's now!
My advice is just that... mine.
It's what worked for our family during our time of need.
If you are here wanting to know how YOU can help, God bless YOU!
You're in the right place.
The first step to helping someone who has just gone through a tragedy is ...
SHOW UP!
Don't call or text.
I know you may think that you're being sweet but you're just taking time away from them that they need.
Victims can't tell you what they need because they just don't know.
I know for myself, I could not even think straight and tell you if I was hungry.
The hardest part of being a victim of flooding is admitting you need help.
Trust me. You need every helping hand you can find.
So where do you begin?
You don't have to call them and let them know you're coming.
They may refuse. Just show up!
Everyone wants to bring water and that is great but man can't survive on just water.
Snacks were awesome!
It's hot and you're working endless hours. Your normal has flown out of the window and often, you won't even know you're hungry until the wee hours of the night.
Here is a list of things we found very helpful in the first few days.
Floor fans
paper towels
toilet paper
sanitizing wipes
work/plastic gloves
pop up tables
drop cloths
hammers, utility knives
PLASTIC BINS!!
(you cannot have enough plastic bins)
flip flops/socks
tooth brushes and toothpaste.
Many loving friends wanted to send clothing and household items.
While these items will be needed in the future, many will have no place to store them.
Instead, offer to pick up their laundry and wash it for them.
You have no idea how this will be a blessing for them!!!
Cook meals and bring it to them.
I know we never wanted to stop working and drive somewhere to eat.
That took up valuable time when trying to beat the onset of mold setting up in your home.
The first step after your home floods...
Demo.
This is a hard one.
I had a few moments where I broke down throwing out "memories"
But... you know what I remember now the most?
Those that were there shoulder to shoulder helping us every step.
Don't be afraid to step in and pitch items that are damaged and soiled.
I found it helpful when others would make those decisions for me.
When it is something in question, hold to the side and ask them later.
It's ok to cry and its ok to cry with them.
What's not ok is to remind them that it's only just stuff that can be replaced.
Their "just stuff" is theirs and it hurts.
Allow them time to grieve over their belongings and listen to their stories.
They are blessed to have you!
This is something that won't be fixed in a week.. a month... a year!
Working with the government is slow.
Working with your insurance is slow.
Waiting on construction workers... crickets
Let's just say that we are a year in and we are still waiting to finish things.
For those of you that are helpers, keep checking in on them.
Don't believe when they say they are fine and don't need anything.
Bring something! Even if its a plate of cookies.
They need to feel loved and not forgotten.
Every kind act that you can do for them will be one less thing on their shoulders.
If you cant be there but want to help...
Donations.
Everyone has their own opinions on who and where to donate.
What was helpful to us the most, gift cards!
They took up no space and we knew they were there when needed.
When you have lost everything, anything helps!
We would not be where we are today if it had not been for the kindness of others.
If you have a local church or group heading that way to help, that's a great place to start.
I know that everyone mentions large groups (not saying names) but after everyone takes a cut, only a small percentage makes its way to the needy.
Give to groups that you know.
be careful
Along with tragedy comes crooks that are heartless and will play at your emotions.
Make sure your hard earned money finds its way 100% into those that NEED it.
I know this post has been all over the place.
My thoughts and feelings are everywhere!
We are good.
Most of the rain and wind have gone west of us for now.
If you're still reading this, thank you!
Thank you for helping!
Every small gesture is HUGE to the one that's going to receive it.
xo
